Detach from her past does not mean forgetting. Your memories and experiences are part of yourself, but it is not the reality of what you are now. It is in this that you can make choices, not in the past. you are not responsible for the things you are not comfortable, and the past eludes us all! Detach yourself from the past and going forward. I wanted a cigarette. It was stupid, I smoked in years. Yes but now, that's life ... You demonstrate a great commitment and then a winter morning, you decide to walk four kilometers in the cold to buy a pack of cigarettes or else you love a man with his two children and you make a morning of winter, you learn that he will because he loves another. Adds that he is confused, he was wrong. As the phone: "Sorry, Wrong Number."